Friday, January 19, 2018

30 Things I Learned Before 30

It's here. Despite my best efforts to prevent it from coming, today is the last day of my 20s. Birthdays are always a time of reflection for me, but I've never reflected quite as much about my life as I have approaching the big 3-0. I promised myself I was going to look forward to 30, but as I've gotten closer I've had more and more anxiety about it. Which is so dumb. I really do feel like my 30s will "be the best years of my life" as Tim McGraw puts it. But I think that its been hard for me because I can't really remember a time when I wasn't in my 20s. My teens and childhood seem like another lifetime at this point, and really every significant thing in my life happened in my 20s. My 20s were for the most part spectacular and so its a little hard to say goodbye to them. I thought it would be fun today to share 30 things I've learned during my 20s. I feel like as a woman I'm entering my 30s without all of the insecurity that you start your 20s with, and that feels so good. Some of these lessons I've learned are small, but others have truly shaped everything I am today. 30 be good to me. You have a lot to live up to.

Here we go....

1. How people treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves and often has nothing to do with you.

2. Your health is way more important than your wealth. 

3. Marriage is choosing to be unselfish every day.

4. There is life after having a baby. It might seem to stop for a few months, but then it gets better than ever.

5. Underpromise and overperform. 

6. Gratitude makes the difference in whether you are happy in your life or not. 

7. Your loved ones don't care what you look like.

8. My doctor and my mother were right about sunscreen.

9. Keep your expectations high but be kind to yourself if you fall short. 

10. Always wait a few days before deciding to pull the trigger on making a major purchase.

11. Your ability to accomplish your dreams will only disappear when you lose your optimism about the future. 

12. Learn as much as you can and read the news.

13. Don't be afraid to speak your mind, but know when it's best not to.

14. Investing in your relationships with your husband and children will be the most rewarding things you can do in life. 

15. Other people's opinions don't matter unless you let them. 

16. Forgive your enemies but don't be afraid to cut them out of your life afterwards. 

17. You really will regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did do.

18. True friendships are rare and if you find them you should treasure them and safeguard them.

19. Be genuinely interested in other people. True networking is cultivating relationships for who people are, not what they can offer you.

20. It's okay to need to shut the world out every once in a awhile. 

21. You can have everything, but not all at once.

22. Comparison really is the thief of joy. 

23. Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.

24. People are way more focused on themselves than they are in anything you are doing. You don't actually have to feel self conscious.

25. It really does take years to build your reputation, and one wrong move to ruin it forever.

26. Not everyone has your best interest at heart. Learn that and let them go. (On a related note, women who don't help other women really do deserve a special spot in hell. Don't be that woman.)

27. No-one can make you feel good about yourself. Self-worth has to come from within. 

28. Invest in yourself. You can't take care of other people if you aren't taking care of yourself.

29. You can't truly empathize with someone unless you experience what they actually went through. What you are actually feeling most of the time is only sympathy and it's important to realize that.

30. Loving yourself is a challenge, but it is achievable.

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