Friday, January 19, 2018

30 Things I Learned Before 30

It's here. Despite my best efforts to prevent it from coming, today is the last day of my 20s. Birthdays are always a time of reflection for me, but I've never reflected quite as much about my life as I have approaching the big 3-0. I promised myself I was going to look forward to 30, but as I've gotten closer I've had more and more anxiety about it. Which is so dumb. I really do feel like my 30s will "be the best years of my life" as Tim McGraw puts it. But I think that its been hard for me because I can't really remember a time when I wasn't in my 20s. My teens and childhood seem like another lifetime at this point, and really every significant thing in my life happened in my 20s. My 20s were for the most part spectacular and so its a little hard to say goodbye to them. I thought it would be fun today to share 30 things I've learned during my 20s. I feel like as a woman I'm entering my 30s without all of the insecurity that you start your 20s with, and that feels so good. Some of these lessons I've learned are small, but others have truly shaped everything I am today. 30 be good to me. You have a lot to live up to.

Here we go....

1. How people treat you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves and often has nothing to do with you.

2. Your health is way more important than your wealth. 

3. Marriage is choosing to be unselfish every day.

4. There is life after having a baby. It might seem to stop for a few months, but then it gets better than ever.

5. Underpromise and overperform. 

6. Gratitude makes the difference in whether you are happy in your life or not. 

7. Your loved ones don't care what you look like.

8. My doctor and my mother were right about sunscreen.

9. Keep your expectations high but be kind to yourself if you fall short. 

10. Always wait a few days before deciding to pull the trigger on making a major purchase.

11. Your ability to accomplish your dreams will only disappear when you lose your optimism about the future. 

12. Learn as much as you can and read the news.

13. Don't be afraid to speak your mind, but know when it's best not to.

14. Investing in your relationships with your husband and children will be the most rewarding things you can do in life. 

15. Other people's opinions don't matter unless you let them. 

16. Forgive your enemies but don't be afraid to cut them out of your life afterwards. 

17. You really will regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did do.

18. True friendships are rare and if you find them you should treasure them and safeguard them.

19. Be genuinely interested in other people. True networking is cultivating relationships for who people are, not what they can offer you.

20. It's okay to need to shut the world out every once in a awhile. 

21. You can have everything, but not all at once.

22. Comparison really is the thief of joy. 

23. Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.

24. People are way more focused on themselves than they are in anything you are doing. You don't actually have to feel self conscious.

25. It really does take years to build your reputation, and one wrong move to ruin it forever.

26. Not everyone has your best interest at heart. Learn that and let them go. (On a related note, women who don't help other women really do deserve a special spot in hell. Don't be that woman.)

27. No-one can make you feel good about yourself. Self-worth has to come from within. 

28. Invest in yourself. You can't take care of other people if you aren't taking care of yourself.

29. You can't truly empathize with someone unless you experience what they actually went through. What you are actually feeling most of the time is only sympathy and it's important to realize that.

30. Loving yourself is a challenge, but it is achievable.

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Casual Black Dress

This was a fun outfit I wore to a baby shower. I found this dress at Old Navy and it reminded me of a Free People one I saw that was significantly more expensive so I had to have it! This sweater was a boutique find and has been such a staple in my winter wardrobe. It goes with everything. Everyone needs a simple sweater like this! These heels were something I found last year on Qupid shoes and I have loved them! They are so comfy.

Outfit Details

Black Dress: more expensive option here | Shoes: old similar style here | Sweater: sold out, similar style here

Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Cole's Birth Story

I should have posted Cole's birth story forever ago but the first two months having him home have been crazy adjusting to having 2 babies! Crew is two and Cole is now two months so the age gap is challenging. I think it has been a little harder of an adjustment than I planned. I have struggled a lot with post partum depression this time too. I didn't have any of that when Crew was born so it has been hard dealing with it and trying to be a good mom to Crew. Things are slowly getting easier though and we love having Cole as part of our family!

I was induced a week early this time because Crew was 9.3 pounds so we knew we would probably be having another big boy. They started me on a cervix softer around 8 pm on October 25th. Luckily that put me into labor and I contracted and progressed all night. (No sleep at all! the contractions were so painful) Around 7 in the morning I got my epidural and was able to rest but still wasn't able to sleep. Around 11:30 my contractions were strong enough that it started to make Coles heart rate drop to the point that my doctor was concerned. They had already broken my water so they decided to insert a tube and shoot some water back up in to cushion him from the contractions squeezing him. Luckily that helped enough get us through the rest of the dilation process. At 12:45 I was ready to start pushing! I only pushed a few times and the little dude was out. He only weighed 7.11. That was such a shock to us since his brother was so big. He swallowed some fluid on his way out so he was struggling with that for the first day but other than that he was perfect and so healthy. We couldn't have asked for a better delivery. 

Thanks for reading!


Monday, January 8, 2018

Family Pictures 2017

Outfit details
Jess: Top: Nordstrom | Pants: Nordstrom | Boots: Old (Similar (on sale!))
Harper: Dress: Old Navy, sold out (similar) | Bow: Nordstrom

I was so excited to take family pictures this year now that Harper is with us! My go-to for all of the professional photos I get done is Cali Stoddard Photography. She did my birth story (which you can find here), and she is doing Harper's first birthday party next month. She is just amazing. Cali found the most amazing place to take pictures up at Silver Lake up Big Cottonwood Canyon and it was so gorgeous. There wasn't any snow down in the valley but up in the canyon it was a winter wonderland! It was the perfect backdrop to take photos to go on our Christmas card. I love my little family!

Friday, January 5, 2018

Best Year Yet

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I love starting a new year! I know a lot of people are critical of the idea of making resolutions, but I love starting a year with new goals. For some reason I can trick myself into being more positive at the beginning of the year and be more forgiving of myself for the failures of the previous year. This year I have so many goals that I really feel like I will actually achieve. I turn 30 this month and I'm determined to make 2018 my year! One thing I feel really helps me is physically writing things down. Whether its my goals, or my schedule, or my to-do list, actually putting them down on paper seems to be much more effective than just using my phone. I love how many cute planners and calendars there are now to help with that! I've gathered some of the cutest ones I've seen for you today. I bought this calendar at Anthropologie last month and it is beyond gorgeous! I put it in my office and it puts me in a good mood everytime I look at it! Happy planning ladies!

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Harper Turns 6 Months

Sorry for the picture overload but picking my favorites was impossible! I can't believe that my baby is 6 months old already! Time is just flying by and each age is more fun than the one before. She started sitting up by herself this week and is the happiest sweetest baby I could ever have hoped for! Funny story, you will notice that my husband is pretty casual in these pics...we hadn't planned on taking any family pics so neither of us dressed up. When the photographer told us to jump in for a few family shots I wasn't sure how they would turn out. I ended up loving them though just because they are such a good illustration of casual us and this moment in our lives! Harper has changed everything for the better and in my wildest dreams I never could have imagined how much love we would have for this sweetheart. I'm so honored that I get to be her mommy forever! She's already my little buddy and loves to do everything with me. It's my goal in life to always remain worthy of the blessing I have been given of a healthy, happy, perfect little girl! Happy 6 months sweetheart!